Women Marrying Younger Men - The Pros And Cons
Well the obvious advantage in taking a younger life partner is, of, course, that you are unlikely to be left a widow unless the object of your affection has the misfortune and spectacular bad luck to get run over by a bus on day three of the honeymoon or something equally tragic, not to mention inconvenient.
Getting left behind to cope alone is of course the most worrying thing older women have to face. Those with husbands considerably older than themselves dread the day when they will have to join hobby groups en masse to get through the day, or start line dancing classes, water colour groups or, God help us all, knitting circles.
Another drawback is financial insecurity. Unless both partners have a career, the man might find himself having to budget for the retirement of his wife extending well beyond his own. Not everybody is sensible enough to work out such arrangements satisfactorily and a widow may find herself with serious cash problems at a time in her life when she is least able to cope with them.
More often than not, women married to far older men find themselves nursing a sick husband at the end of his life instead of enjoying hers.
The solution is definitely to marry someone considerably younger than you, but the question is – how young? One reads of grandmothers successfully marrying young men of eighteen or nineteen years old but I have to say I cannot understand why such unions succeed. What on earth do they find to talk about? No, that definitely would not suit me.
A man twenty or even fifteen years younger might also find the grass considerably greener when confronted with attractive women of his own age.
The golden age gap seems to be between fifteen and ten years younger. That way the lady in the partnership is young enough to enjoy all the physical advantages of being married to someone younger yet old enough to be unlikely to outlive him, thus ensuring financial and emotional security for her twilight years.
The analysis is all a waste of time, of course, because what really matters is that you spend your available years on earth with someone whom you can love and relate to in some harmony. The formula is, to some extent, irrelevant.
Jan Gamm writes reflections on life with an emphasis on world travel. She has lived in many countries and traveled extensively in the Far East, the Middle East, America, South America and throughout the South Pacific. She writes for fun and for money whenever she can manage it.
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